This Friday will mark 5 years of marriage for my husband and I. 5 years! Such a long time right? (Kidding.) 5 years, 3 children (Yep...Baby #3 Due February 2015!) 3 moves and 2 jobs. Wow, it's kind of crazy to read that just because it's amazing where life can take you in such a short time. I can honestly say these past 5 years have been super challenging and super rewarding. In these 5 years of marriage I have learned so much. I have learned what the true definition of tired is, I have learned if I don't get my own way I tend to throw tantrums just like my toddlers do and I have learned that my husband is probably one of the most patient people I have ever met. I have also come to the realization that a marriage without involving Christ is really hard and not so fun.
BK,(Before kids) Matt and I went to Mass and we were able to concentrate the entire time. Holy hours happened frequently and we prayed together often. Slowly but surely life happens and God somehow gets pushed to the bottom of the totem pole. Jobs, changing diapers, running errands, finishing the never ending to do list, etc, always seem to sneak in there and take top priority. It's funny it's taken Matt and I 5 years to realize that when we both feel off or maybe there's some tension between us...it's simply because we have put God last and need to get our priorities back in order. Once we have everything in the right order it's amazing how our perspective on just about everything changes and our attitudes are much more positive.
I know of one man in particular who knew the importance of putting God first, JP II...you may or may not have heard of him before. If not, he was an amazing pope and is actually a saint now. Below is a quote I found of his about marriage and I love it.
"Willed by God in very action of creation, marriage and family are interiorly ordained to fulfillment in Christ and have need of His graces in order to be healed from the wounds of sin and restored to their “beginning,” that is, to full understanding and the full realization of God’s plan”
Matt and I have taken 5 years to realize that it is only His graces that can mend a disagreement, that can help us to be good parents and help us to be the married couple He wants us to be. I think that realization is a good enough anniversary gift in itself...but if you're reading this Matt dinner and flowers are a pretty great anniversary gift as well! :)